AMAZING!!! SOOO INSOIRING!!
It is an exellent reminder to communicate your emotions instead of holding them in. If someone does something to upset you, you should speak it over in a calm way. This conversation will increase feelings of Shalom, even if one feels they are being confrontational. It is not a maaleh to hold negative emotions inside, especially since they are likely to affect the way one interacts with the person who caused those emotions. This prevents hatred from brewing after a misunderstanding that was never fixed to become an understanding.
Agree, but in the right way at the right time.
Also, it's a bad idea to use email for a conversation that can go wrong. Emotive conversations need to be done verbally.
I disagree. When triggered one can say something that they can regret. A word once uttered can't be undone. But you can prepare an email, look it over, edit and edit some more. Just keep you finger off of the send button until you're sure that your email is peaceful and good and not going to do damage.
Every situation needs to be dealt with individually.
Some people feel more comfortable talking on the phone. Others feel more at ease writing down their feelings.
Emails have no INFLECTIONS; They have no EMOTIONS. they can (ANDN BELIEVE ME, MANY TIMES ARE) read wrong.
Eaxmple: RIght! That was brilliant.
Could be PSHAT.
Could be SARCASM.
Odds are , in an EMOTIONAL email chain (thread), the injured will ASSUME it is sarcastic.
Since I don't agree with A. Gore who thinks he invented the internet, and someone's made up rule that CAPS MEAN YELLING (they do not. Since I invented the net, allow me: they can be for EMPHASIS, as if I am REALLY there, speaking. OR, a fly landing on my Capslock button, and I am not re-doing 3 pages I typed to UN CAP them.
Funny, 30 seconds on the phone BEATS 5 emails, lasting a week and a half.
Words START a fight...words can end it.
You think in an EMAIL , the anger/disappointment/etc will go away?
Let me know how that works our for you.
(sarcasm, dear reader....but to STRESS a point).
Notice how stress was capitalized? as if I raised my voice, EMPHAS...sorry emphasizing that word.
Me & Mr. Gore. You choose who's "rules" to follow.
I have 613 rules already that I LOVE to follow.
Yes, the human voice is a miracle of expression. Provided the speaker is aware of how his EMPHASIS in speech reflects his emotional status. May the Chofetz Chayim Foundation continue to impact us on trying to get the loving, understanding, non-judgemental messages across in the right tone of voice or text. Hone your skills!
I am replying to Anony - mousse.
You are correct, emails have no inflections, so the reader can’t hear’ the writer. Personally I have had bad experiences (misunderstandings) via email is with people I have not yet met in person, nor spoken to on the phone. But not all of them.
I clearly remember an email, my friend ( whom I have yet to speak to on the phone), used CAPITAL letters in response to what I said. I apologized for getting her upset and she said the capital letters were to emphasize that she was agreeing with me. Now, had she said ,’ I agree with you...’ and then shared her thoughts, in capital letters, I of course would have understood her.
Now, what if the last minute email had said ‘change in plans, no one under 14 can come. No room...sorry’, it would be totally different picture. The problems we face, is we don’t give all the details whether it’s a phone call or an email, Since people are busy, and they don’t have time to call everyone. they rely on email to relay the message, and unfortunately, assume our message is understood.
No guarantees of anything, really.
OMG the faker is totally me. Losing it but pretending everything is fine...
this was amazing
These videos have really helped me! This video was really well done and spoke straight to me! Thank you Shalom Challenge! TIZKE LMITZVOS!
Wow!! This really shows me my options of reacting to situations and which are right ;)
WOW!!!!!! Soo amazing! Thank you!
Thank you!!! I saw myself there, may Heaven grant me (all of us) Siyata D'Shomaya to change: to control ourselves and always have the Ribbono Shel Olam and the well-being of the other person in mind!
amazing how you covered every angry reaction that is usually a shoot from the hip one. Vent first and think it through afterwards. I can identify and will try to replay this when the next trigger happens. Yasher koach
So we’ll done, and also a good reminder that some communication is best handled “live.”
In nother words,
sometimes texting and emails allow too much lag time for the communication
to be effective , and reduce the response time of the recipients.
sometimes we just need to talk!
Amazing! I totally need this every day not just 20 days! Thank you shalom challenge!
Thank you! That was an amazing lesson and it was presented so well!
wow wow wow SOOO amazing thank you!!
Thank you kindly! HKBH should bless you!
Wow, your doing such great work, in such an awesome way!!
WOW!! This was incredible! So true, and so powerful!!!!!
AMAZING!!! So so True!! THANK YOU SHALOM CHALLENGE YOU ARE CHANGING THE WORLD!!
Really excellent -- this video might be the one that speaks most to me of all the ones in this series. Thank you.
So incredibly accurate. And even when we are frustrated and possibly in the right, there’s a right and wrong way to react
This message of controlling one's reactions is something that every person in this world needs to hear. Everything in the Torah boils down to self control, learning that there are guidelines for how to live a proper, productive life and realizing that the only thing I can control in this world is myself. Thank you to the producers of this incredible video!