Rabbi Tzvi Sytner

Rachel
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Beautiful and v true message :)
Thank you
Ruby K
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
This was one of the best messages to stop and be a good listener-- not just to respond, but really hear. And hope the other who's listening to us, hears also.
Thank you.
Anonymous
7 months agoMarch 1, 2021
Very well said.
A listener (hopefully)
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Thank You!
Shiffy
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Wow Thank You.
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Wow! So inspiring!
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Wow.....thank you....the watch teaches us to really hear what makes the other person "tick" and also what " ticks them off":)
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Right, but it’s a tough one. I sometimes  say innocent comments, and, boy, have I gotten an earful...
Not arguing with someone, but making small talk.
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Thank you so much!
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Superb.  Thank you. This was exactly what I need to HEAR. No pun intended
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Rabbi Sytner, I gain so much from your insightful comments!!! I owe you a tremendous debt of gratitude!l
chaya
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
WOWWWWW!!!!!!!!!! Excellent! This was so nice!!! Thank you so much!!!!!!!!
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Amazing 
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Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
When two people are arguing, it takes a lot of inner strength to be the first to stop, and to listen to the other person.
Bracha Goetz
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
00:37:21
Wonderful!
LD
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
03:21:64
Every message has been spot on--but this one is fantabulous!
Jane
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Helping me to watch what I'm hearing.
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Rabbi Sytner is the best!
Anonymous
6 months agoMarch 7, 2021
Agreed
Karen
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Beautiful!
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Wow! SO nice and soo true!! I πŸ’œ Rabbi Snyder!!! thank you sooo sooo much!!
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Excellent, to the point β€” much appreciated by all listeners & speakers.
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Excellent, to the point β€” much appreciated by all listeners & speakers.
Anonymous
7 months agoFebruary 28, 2021
Thanks! Powerful!!
Anonymous
7 months agoMarch 1, 2021
Wow wow so amazing!!
BK
7 months agoMarch 1, 2021
Thank you for this beautiful message... and all the previous ones! We're working on internalizing them.
Anonymous
7 months agoMarch 1, 2021
So much thought and effort goes into each one of these. They are so very much appreciated. Great stories also. Thank you so much.
anonymous
7 months agoMarch 1, 2021
That was so helpful!!! And very practical! Thank you for inspiring us!
Anonymous
7 months agoMarch 1, 2021
Love this!! Thank you
Anonymous
7 months agoMarch 1, 2021
Thank you. I just realized that if we are planning our response as we are listening, we miss a lot of what is actually being expressed.
Anonymous
7 months agoMarch 1, 2021
Wow so powerful thank you so much
R.Y
7 months agoMarch 1, 2021
Completely true
Fred
7 months agoMarch 2, 2021
Rabbi Shlomo Alkabitz (the author of 'Lecho Dodi') had a rule for his talmidim that talmidim should rebuke one another as needed, and when someone rebukes someone, the rebuked may not respond until 3 days. This is so that he should allow the heat of the moment to pass and that he should not be dishonest and untruthful when responding. After 3 days if he feels that he has something to respond, he may then do so.
Chaya
7 months agoMarch 2, 2021
Wow!
Anonymous
7 months agoMarch 4, 2021
Amazing!!
anoynomous
6 months agoMarch 7, 2021
wow that is so meaningful really appreciate it 
thank you so much
ck
6 months agoMarch 8, 2021
wow beautiful!ty
Mav in Toronto
6 months agoMarch 15, 2021
Rabbi - That part about listening to understand vs listening to respond seems like a key to me. Often my tendency is to prepare a quick response and while doing so cannot hear anything the other person is saying. It requires intense listening (shema as you say) not to slip into that trap. Thank U for getting the message thru so clearly.
Rhonda Silver
5 months agoApril 6, 2021
Such valuable and important advice. Sometimes, I find myself thinking about how I am going to respond just so I have something to say, so I don't appear to be a fool. That is a problem of self-esteem, on top of the issue preparing your response in order to prove you are right instead of really listening.
Anonymous
4 months agoMay 19, 2021
03:21:57
I don't listen for the tick-tick, I listen for H'S' to direct me and if I don't find it, maybe there is an another lesson. I can also listen to H'S' when someone is difficult for me to listen to, like when I am in a situation where I can't leave, like a business meeting, in court, in a class, etc...

I am not convinced listening in a heated argument is worthwhile for me. Sometimes it only works me up. It is better for me to take myself out of the situation, come back when we are both calm and then I can be present and fully listen. Then if  I have been given some time to pray, reflect or talk to a 3rd party, I tend to be able to reconnect with H'S'. Listening through H'S' ears is what I like to think about. How does H'S' listen? Quietly, patiently.
Anonymous
3 months agoJune 14, 2021
Thank you. So far, for me, this is one of the most meaningful messages. Now, I not only can appropriately express, to whomever I am talking, what I need in order to feel that I am being heard but, most importantly, I now have the tools to become a better, more effective listener.
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